Are you enraged when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure skyrocket when a coworker is unreasonable? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but uncontrolled it can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.
Think about this:
Out-of-control anger hurts your physical health. Constantly operating at high levels of stress makes you more susceptible to heart disease, diabetes, a weakened immune system, insomnia, and high blood pressure.
Out-of-control anger hurts your mental health. Feeling angry consumes huge amounts of mental energy, and clouds your thinking, making it harder to concentrate or enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, and other mental health problems.
Out-of-control anger hurts your career. Constructive criticism, creative differences, and heated debate can be healthy while lashing out only alienates your colleagues, supervisors, or clients and erodes their respect.
Out-of-control anger hurts your relationships with others. It causes lasting scars in the people you love most and gets in the way of friendships and work relationships, therefore making it hard for others to trust you, speak honestly, or feel comfortable—and is especially damaging to children.
Here are some strategies that counseling can help with:
The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physical reaction. You most likely can’t avoid people or things that enrage you, but you can learn to control your reactions. Learning to manage anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help if you feel out of control, do things you regret, or hurt those around you.